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- Book 1 – Being a Parent
- Book 2 – Feelings
- Book 3 – Labels
- Book 4 – Whose Problem Is It?
- Book 5 – Being a Helper
- Book 6 – Introduction to Listening
- Book 7 – Reflective Listening 1
- Book 8 – Reflective Listening 2
- Book 9 – Needs and Wants
- Book 10 – Sharing my Feelings
- Book 11 – Challenging
- Book 12 – Being Firm and Gentle
Children soon get wise to being ‘bribed’ to behave. The question is how high does the price become and how much do you have to compromise yourself? Start as you mean to continue and let your child know exactly what you expect from them in situations where good behaviour is paramount. Download Book 1, ‘Being a Parent’ FREE now!
“Simple, straightforward, well-structured and very useful. I feel quite inspired to get a group of friends together to practise these skills on a weekly basis.”
– W.M. Larne
Bearing in mind everyone has needs which need to be met, it’s important to know whose needs are greater at different times. Sometimes, in an effort to get what we want, others may see our behaviour as unacceptable, but it’s a good idea to look at four factors determining how accepting we are.
If we are feeling tired and irritable, sometimes it doesn’t take much to push our buttons but if everyone is happy, there’s no problem. However as human beings we all have the same needs and behave in ways to get those needs met, which is a normal and healthy situation.
Book 4 – Whose Problem Is It?
For people who don’t get their needs met, they may resort to more extreme behaviour. While there’s nothing wrong in wanting your needs met but the behaviour can become undesirable or inappropriate and this can be seen negatively.
So it’s more useful to look at the behaviour in terms of whether we find it acceptable of unacceptable. In that way we are not labelling the child or the behaviour but looking at our own needs at the time. ‘Whose problem is it?’ teaches you how to identify who’s needs haven’t been met and how to deal with such situations.
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